Islamic Querries (Women) Advice my mother gave me when I started getting proposals. Don’t expect your marriage to be a bed of roses, everything is not always romantic and like being in the movies, you need to wake up and look around look at the Don’t expect to get everything you had in your fathers home, because everyone’s not the same. You might have had whatever you wanted here but once you get married, your husband might not be able to give it to you. If he asks will you stay with my mum, don’t shoot him down and say no, consider it as you love your parents and want your brothers to look after us, he’s doing the same. By getting married don’t expect him to leave his parents for you, if he does don’t bother coming home ou broke up one family and we did not bring When I married your father he had nothing, just a monthly salary of R50 and I came from a wealthy family, but we made do with everything that he had. Look at us today we are never short of anything.